“These four words—No Blanks, No Pauses—originate from pain I know all too well. The pain I have and hold that comes from the moments when I experienced the ‘blank’ and the ‘pause.’ The times I introduced my wife or our three daughters. When we sign legal documents. It’s amazing how much pain can be created by empty space. At times, the empty space eroded my self-confidence and sense of belonging, distanced me from others, and triggered feelings of shame. When I truly experienced No Blanks, No Pauses for the first time—I felt free and loved, allowing shame and pain to disappear.”
No Blanks, No Pauses: A Path To Loving Self and Others
No Blanks, No Pauses is an exploration of Shelly McNamara’s journey to live a full and authentic life. From her childhood home on Grace Avenue to the top of one of the world’s biggest companies, Shelly has questioned, struggled, and written her way through adversity and heartbreak to discover that dreams are worth pursuing, injustice is worth challenging, and peace and fairness are what matter most. Shelly’s mixture of memoir, poetry, and insightful questions draws us in and gives us confidence that we too can heal, connect, and love more expansively than we ever thought possible.
“By sharing the significant events that have shaped her life in No Blanks, No Pauses, Shelly McNamara shows us how to accept, understand, and be transformed by love and loss. McNamara’s belief in the goodness of human beings and her desire to make all that she encounters better than it was, is inspiring. Her story will serve as a model to any of us—no matter what our age, gender, sexuality, social class, race/ethnicity, nationality—who must look hardship in the eye, and view it as an occasion for personal growth and a truer self.”
—Dr. Mahzarin R. Banaji, Richard Clarke Cabot Professor of Social Ethics, Harvard University
“The idea of acceptance, love and understanding of a family to members of the LGBTQ+ community is often either a dream we never achieve or something we have to create ourselves through a family of choice. In her book, Shelly shares her loving yet painfully honest story of how having a loving (and large!) family can pave the way to creating one's own beautiful family—and importantly how such connection and empathy can translate into leadership in the business community and the world.”
—Todd Sears, CEO & Founder, Out Leadership